Dress for Success or Change the Definition of Success?

on 08/16/2015 - 10:46 am

by Quenby Wilcox
In the past years, one of the hardest things to deal with during my divorce has been the attitude – the attitude, as one woman put it – that stay-at-home moms should be ashamed of staying home to raise children and not gone out and gotten ‘real’ jobs. As I have learned the hard way, the shame game for women has not disappeared; the shoe has just been put on the other foot.
The idea that a woman can only be ‘successful’ and ‘valuable’ in her role as an employee, a revenue-generating source for her family and the economy, is so ingrained in western cultures and mentalities that this premise is not even questioned. The idea ...

Gilded Cages - Why the Caged Bird Still Sings

on 08/16/2015 - 10:42 am

by Quenby Wilcox
"The problem lay buried, unspoken, for many years in the minds of American women. It was a strange stirring, a sense of dissatisfaction, a yearning that women suffered in the middle of the 20th century in the United States. Each suburban wife struggled with it alone… she was afraid to ask even of herself the silent question — 'Is this all?" wrote Betty Friedan in her best-selling book The Feminine Mystique. Half a century later the suburban wife is still asking herself the same question – the only difference is that it is in relation to her job within corporate America rather than within the home.
So what happened? Why has 50 years of activism, legi ...

Work-Life Balance: The Importance of Ingenuity & Perseverance

on 08/16/2015 - 10:36 am

by Quenby Wilcox
In A Career in Your Suitcase, Jo Parfitt and Colleen Reichrath-Smith state that the key to a successful career lies in “finding our passions, which we can also think of as our vocation or the work we were uniquely designed to do... [but that] converting these passions into a career requires ingenuity and persistence.” Adding some more practical advice, Parfitt goes on to say that “Once more I looked inside myself, and decided I had to calculate which among my many careers had the most earning potential. I had to think hard about which of my skills would earn me the most money per hour and for which there was also a market.” 
While thi ...

Opting Back Into the Job Market: a ‘Piece of Cake’, Or Is It?

on 08/16/2015 - 09:41 am

by Quenby Wilcox
In 2003 Lisa Belkin coined the phrase ‘opting out’ (of the work-force) with her New York Times article Opt Out Revolution.  Since then the Internet has been flooded with blogs and articles about moms who have ‘opted out’ of high paying corporate jobs and careers to raise their children, but who are now returning to the work-force with great success. So if one believes everything that is posted on the Internet, re-insertion into the job market is a ‘piece of cake’.
However, if you scratch the surface of these ‘success’ stories, most are about women who have taken a 4-8 years break, armed with MBAs and/or PhDs, and ha ...